Recently, someone I know wanted real advice and asked me, “how can I change my life?”
Reading between the proverbial lines, I think they were referring to becoming happier with whatever career choice they were trying to make, plus wanted a “how to get fit for dummies” book. Don’t get me wrong. I’m not saying it isn’t a smart question. It’s just a complicated one. Somehow we have managed to hope that change is the catalyst for happiness… and suddenly happiness becomes elusive. It hides in many forms. We change our careers, our physiques and our relationship choices, so we can impact our satisfaction with life. Actually, it’s quite true… but ALL of it needs to happen. Every aspect of these factors interact and are influenced by one another. Health and happiness seem to be inseparable. Happiness appears to affect success and career satisfaction. Everyone I ever met who becomes healthier also becomes happier. Every single person. Health, however, can take more than one form and ultimately both types of health, physical and emotional, seem to be immutably attached to real happiness. Thus, there are TWO key points that I believe act as a fulcrum for the branches of happiness that matter most:
- Be careful about what you put in your mouth……
- and about what comes out of it.
I once heard: “Watch your thoughts; you are always listening.” By the way, YOU are not the only one that’s listening. Beside’s the next-door neighbors eavesdropping and the co-workers you complain to…. have you noticed how everything,….dogs, cats, horses react to how we say things? Words matter…. and that’s firmly attached to how we think.
There is so much evidence that the metaphysical will manifest the physical. Many of us have proven it to ourselves time and time again; yet somehow we manage to forget and fail to communicate with ourselves and others in a powerful and positive manner. Positive communicators are usually confident, successful people with high-self esteem and report maximal achievement of happiness in their lives as well as maximal satisfaction levels with their bodies and their career. The two most sought-after conditions of success. Chicken and egg, you say?? People with naturally great physiques are going to have superb levels of confidence.
Ok. I’ll grant you that, but is it possible or even probable that they’ve never had a bad day? Do you know of a fabulous athlete with a story about how disease, divorce or some natural disaster struck and “…their bodies & popularity just seemed to abandon them…”? Chances are, if we understood just how much our thoughts (and therefore words) influenced every outcome, we would purposefully never have another negative thought.
Predictably, negative communicators tend to be under-confident; they often exhibit low or a lack of self-esteem which correlates quite strongly to varying forms of depression. Interestingly, behavioral (psychotherapy) changes have been found to be a more successful form of treatment and resolution compared to pharmacotherapy (the prescription of drugs).
“Watch your thoughts; they become words. Watch your words; they become actions. Watch your actions; they become habit. Watch your habits; they become character. Watch your character; it becomes your destiny.”
Truly very simple equation. Thoughts+Words X Eating Right = HAPPINESS
Watch your thoughts & words.
Be aware of what you put in your body.
Happiness is the destination.